Friday, September 10, 2010

SUGAR COAT it or SUGAR FREE??????

When your feelings get hurt and then the person asks you to tell them what happened and what's wrong do YOU SUGAR COAT it?????And tell them a lie just to keep peace?????
Or do you give it to them SUGAR FREE?????
Meaning cut to the chase and tell it like it is!!!!!
Today and from here on out it is coming SUGAR FREE!!!
I would rather tell people the way it is and not tell a lie just to avoid things being said.
So I ask do you usually sugar coat it or do you tell it sugar free?????

20 comments:

Corie said...

Well, I am not one to sugar coat things. Most people that annoy me have a pretty good idea now days. I am over sugar coating things to make someone else happy or to make things less drama. I say, tell it how it is and let them figure out the rest!:)

Marydon said...

Oh, mercy, Corie is soooo right. I wish I had seen this earlier today ... NAILED it on the head ... say it like it is.

Have a wonderful PS weekend.
TTFN ~Marydon

Keetha Denise Broyles said...

I hope I would be honest, but with kindness and tact.

Julie Tucker-Wolek said...

Sadly...I have a tendency to tell it the way it is... and sometimes that gets me in trouble! LOL! :):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

MosaicMagpie said...

I try to speak from the heart and I am a Sugar Free gal.
Debbie

Cindy (Applestone Cottage) said...

Hi Jamie,
OOH, that's a tough one for me. But I am like Keetha. I would try to be honest with kindness and tact. However, if someone was continually just mean and spiteful then I think I would forget about the tact and just say how you feel.
Hope all is well and that your ok my dear.
Love Ya,
Cindy

The Martin Family said...

I am not one to sugar coat it! I am pretty good at telling it like it is.

Hugs, Reda

Chrissy said...

I am one to tell you how I feel. I expect the same from others as well. Sugar coating to me is playing games...so no games when it comes to the truth!!

Deanna said...

Jamie, I'm quilty. I think I've done it all one time or another.

If you need to chat...plez email. I iz here!

God bless,
d

Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short) said...

The truth... with just a sprinkling of sugar so as to not hurt someone's feelings if at all possible!

Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short) said...

But when my feelings get hurt by someone I think it's important to straight out and tell the person the truth. Heck with the sugar!

Chatty Crone said...

I use splenda. Wish you luck with what happened. sandie

M.L. @ The House of Whimsy said...

Oh, I'm sorry you're going through this (we all do from time to time). Sending well-wishes your way!
I just ran over to tell you that we used your wonderful suggestion (of the beautiful plates with Sara's colors) for her Shower over the weekend. I never would have known about them if it weren't for you. Thank you, Jamie!!!

Grams said...

Jamie, I've gotten to the point that unless it will do some good or change something I don't say anything. I just cut my losses and move on. I like less drama.On the other hand if it can make a difference or change something for the better I'm not scared to say it how it is. I'm sorry you are having drama. Hugs, Kathy

Amy Arnaz said...

I am struggling with this. I try to be 100% upfront when I can, but I am famous for sugar coating. I just tell the part that won't hurt the person's feelings and that usually gets me by without revealing all. My daughter always catches me doing this and I tell her it's OK to tell a partial truth because after all, that's not lying! But actually it almost IS lying because it's not being 100% truthful. Ugh. A hard spot to be in. I suffer when I think I'm going to hurt someone's feelings by telling the whole truth. Sugar usually works! Good topic Jamie. Sorry I couldn't say anything profound.
xoxo Amy

Liz said...

Oh Jamie! That could be a loaded question. I guess I have to answer honestly and say that sometimes I do. NOt always but sometimes yes. I just have to consider the situation, the person, and how important the answer is... I would love to always be able to "tell the truth and nothing but the truth" But I sometimes you can't.

~Liz

Country Wings in Phoenix said...

Oh Jamie Sweetie...
I am SO tired of sugar coating things. I am flat out of Splenda. I think being sick like I have been, has taught me to be honest with people. Tell them like it is.

I know some people are sensitive, but why should we always be the one that does the coating, and they take and take?

Have a beautiful day sweet one. I miss you. Many hugs and so much love, Sherry

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Rettabug said...

Whatever it is that has prompted you to ask this question, I hope that it has been resolved & that you are feeling better about your decision! {{HUGS}}
Sounds like somebody needed a good sit-down, talkin' to!
I've ALWAYS been an outspoken person & not one to pussy-foot around a subject but having once lambasted a family member for something extremely thoughtless & dangerous, I found it damaged the relationship permanently. So my advice would be, don't speak when angry & don't put anything in writing that you wouldn't want the whole world to see. Always sleep on it, too. Morning gives a different perspective on many things.

Mega Hugs,
Rett